Lydia: will.i.am of the musical group The Black Eyed Peas had this to say in the May issue of ELLE magazine, regarding women having condoms in their homes:
ELLE: If you walked into a woman’s house, what one item would convince you that you weren't compatible?
W: If she had condoms in her house, that would just fuckin’ throw me off. That’s just tacky.
ELLE: Well, okay, I could see if she had a candy bowl full of them on the coffee table. But if she's got a few in a drawer, wouldn't that simply suggest she's health-conscious?
W: I just think, like, if you’re into someone and you guys get to that level, then that’s something you should converse about together and say, “Hey, maybe we should get some.” Another pet peeve is wet sinks.
I never thought that he was the sharpest tool in the shed but this is just ridiculous! He’s a pop star, not an intellectual or social critic and I don’t necessarily expect him to be progressive or socially conscious, but making booty-shaking music and appreciating a woman being in control of her health should not be mutually exclusive.
What do you think?
Lydia: Wonderful response on TheBody.com
Karima: Ah, c’mon! I’m so sick and tired of this sh*t. “Hey, maybe we should get some.” Condoms should be the default birth control. Period. I think this says more about how uncomfortable he is about a woman's freedom to have lovers. Yes, there are sexually active women out there will.i.am, not waiting by the phone in a chastity belt for you.
Sheryl: Whoa!!!! I am a kind of surprised. Hearing him speak and seeing the good things he has done for others during his various Oprah appearances, I would imagine he would know better. Unfortunately for Will and for all who read his comments, being charitable has no correlation with a person’s ability to understand that a woman choosing to protect herself is not a topic for debate or discussion. Asking a partner to wear a condom is a matter of the woman’s health. Hopefully, he will learn that tacky is saying, “Hey, maybe we should get some.”
Lydia: I think Kellee Terrell (see link to TheBody.com above) hit the nail on the head “This is 2011, not 1956.” I think he’s in a time warp as far as women’s health and sexuality are concerned. Hopefully, he has heard about the discussion surrounding his comments and is educating himself. It would be great if he then came out in another interview or made a statement or a public service announcement, saying that his eyes have been opened and his view broadened and he's learned x,y,z and encourages others to do the same. I doubt it will happen, but it would be great if it did.